There are no Words

by Dalva

No, I mean it. There are no words. We make them up, we pretend we use them to communicate. In reality, there is no such thing as language. Our spirits do not use language. The dead or unborn cannot speak to us using words. True communicating has nothing to do with language.

Once anything is put into words, it becomes fiction.

It becomes a story about what is being experienced. Experiences have no words. They just are. To put things into words makes them no longer experiences. You step outside on a sunny day,  turn your face upward and feel the sun’s warmth and the good sensations of the experience. There are no words for this, though poets often try. Have you ever experienced something from reading poetry or a description? Not really. As soon as you think, “oh, the sun feels good today,” the experience ends.

When we are upset with someone for lying to us, it isn’t because of the words they used. Instead, it’s because they are hiding their true experiences and true self from us. Let’s be honest though, don’t we all lie every day? Don’t we constantly hide our true selves from each other, and even from ourselves, all the time?


Many ancient cultures have stories that look back in fondness on preliterate times. They speak of a Golden age when goodness, ease, and cooperation were the norm. Why would people long for days before writing, perhaps even before speaking? Let’s consider. What does language do?

Many people believe it helps us to communicate, but communication specialists estimate that anywhere from 60 to 80% of communication is not based on actual words. While disagreeing on the exact specific amounts, all agree that less than half of communication is word-based. The majority of communication does not happen through words.

If you think about it, words very often get in the way of communication.

When a friend is sad, how much more effective is our hug, or hand on the shoulder, and caring presence than any words we could possibly say? Words create a story about what is happening, which leads to suffering, as we have discussed in previous articles.

Your friend passes you without a word. That is not a painful happening. Then, however, you begin to put words to it.

Maybe she’s mad at me.

She’s so mean.

He’s so self-centered.

Then pain enters the experience.

Without words, there is no emotional suffering.

There are also no thought constructs, such as racism, sexism, class systems, judgment, hatred over differences, and so on. A person must think words to build the beliefs that lead to these kinds of fears and hates.

Think also how often the words people speak or hear become damaging to their psyche, or to the world.

Ancient peoples also believed that speaking words aloud had magic power—and so it does. Say to a young child, “You are so stupid,” and see what kind of spell you cast.

Writing words down is well-named spelling, as to read what is written takes us away from now. So, it adds another layer to our removal from experience.

I experience. That is.

Then I think words about it, the experience changes. I change. I suffer. Then words about the experiences or thoughts of others make it so I am no longer experiencing anything in me.

Histories, biographies, fiction, are all part of the spell that words have put on us. One way to return to wholeness is to get back in touch with your pre-verbal self. This part of us is wise, instinctual, intuitive, creative, and in touch with spirit pre-mind.

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